Have you ever been judged by other moms? Most of us probably have at one time or another. The way our house looks, the back seat of the car, how our kids act, even what we do in general can be a hot topic for other moms to gossip about.
A great friend once said to me "What others say about you is just a reflection of what is going on inside that person." At first it didn't make a lot of sense. As I sat and pondered on it the statement does make sense. It is just like a child who bullies another child. They obviously do not feel good about themselves so they want to find a way to make others feel bad.
Parenting skills are probably at the top of the list when it comes to judging. What one mom does may be unacceptable by another. There are numerous styles of parenting. While one may fit one parent it will not for another. Again, it is the mom who judges that obviously is feeling inadequate inside.
Potty training is up on the list with parenting skills. Whenever I am around mothers of toddlers there is going to be the subject of potty training. I will hear mothers say they just put their child on the potty and made them stay there till they went. Then there is the mom who has tried everything under the sun to get their child to go. And what does the one "successfully potty trained mom" do? She tells the other one she obviously is not doing something right.
How would that mom know? Does she hang out at this other moms house everyday? Probably not. Just like parenting, potty training is universal. Meaning, one technique is not going to fit every child. Check out http://pottytrainingsite.blogspot.com which has numerous ideas and tips for potty training.
What are some of the most important issues for moms to remember? No one mom is perfect. We all have our flaws, have our days where the kids are having it rough, they get sick, have accidents. There are the days where we will question being a mom because we got upset with our children. It happens to the best of us.
Like many other moms, I am the first one up in the morning and last one in bed at night. I can remember when my oldest child was a newborn and thinking I was going to die if I didn't get any sleep. Even twelve years later, sleep is a luxury. And it is that way for the majority of moms.
Most moms are going to get up every morning and forget about ourselves. The kids are up, fed, dressed, taken to daycare or school and then we are off to do our things. After the kids are taken care of is when we realize that we forgot to feed ourselves breakfast, make our lunch, pay bills, get gas, even fix our hair.
Whether you are a stay at home mom, working mom or a college mom, we all make sacrifices for our kids. Our kids give us reason to wake up every morning, test our strengths and sometimes our weaknesses.
A friend of mine who is a stay at home mom and licensed daycare provider says that there are some people who believe because she works in her home that she has all the time in the world to do other things. As she recently posted on her Facebook page: "Funny people think if you stay at home you must have nothing to do. With kids here all day. Im cleaning up picking up fixing meals cleaning up after meals cleaning dishes, wipeing noses wiping mouths diapers ect." What those people do not realize is that there have been numerous days that because of her in home business, she has missed her boys baseball and tee ball games. It has taken some adjustment to not being able to be everywhere with her boys and they are okay with it because dad is there to help.
There have been so many times as a mom that I have been so sick or so busy that I wanted to go and hide. I couldn't though. I do not always have the support of family or friends so it is up to me to get things finished.
A mother's work is never done.
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